I have been debating for the last several hours about posting this rant on here. I finally decided I would just do it.
I’m a bit pissed off right now. So I will try to keep my ranting to a bit of a minimum, but understand I make no promises.
Can anyone tell me why it is the people in our lives that should not judge us, that should love us, accept us and encourage us the most that end up being the ones that hurt us the most? Don’t get me wrong, I have some pretty great people in my life that love me and accept me just the way I am. But it’s those few that don’t that cause the most pain.
As most of you know I have two little girls, 9 and 7. Both gorgeous, yes I am biased..lol Neither one of them are big by any means. Both are very active and vivacious. I am telling you this because my 9 year old told me something this morning that happened yesterday while she was out with her Daddy running errands.
She was eating her snack and was told that it was unhealthy and she said she knew, so this person asked her “What, you want to be fat like your mother” my daughter looked at her and said my mom’s not fat.
Needless to say, there was hellfire in my house this morning when I found out. How dare she make my child feel the need to defend me. How dare she disrespect me and my family like that to my 9 year old! What fricken planet is she living on that this is acceptable?!
This person is related by marriage. I won’t say specifically who…
If for some reason you find your way to my blog…you know who you are. I won’t name names, I don’t need to.
If you have someone in your life that is demeaning, rude, cynical and critical, squash them like the bug they are. The damage that they do is like a termite. You don’t realize how much damage has been done until the walls are to weak to stand.
I am curvy, I am big, I am beautiful…my daughters are beautiful, regardless if they end up thin or they end up big. I don’t feel that putting them down at this age is helpful or necessary. Hell for that matter…it isn’t helpful or necessary at any age!
If we all conform to what others think is ‘acceptable’ or ‘normal’ or ‘right’ we would all look the same, talk the same and act the same. I’m sorry…I don’t want to fit in society’s box of perfect.
I have days where I wish I had another body, one that was thin and beautiful. I have days where I wish I had done things differently in my life…but you know what. This is me. Acceptance has to start with ourselves. As cruel as people can be, we have to love ourselves, we have to know that regardless that we aren’t perfectly thin, that we have curves, that we are big, we are still beautiful.
Criticism in this fashion is hurtful…Not helpful. If you have someone in your life that is plus sized, that is full figured and curvy, tell them that they are beautiful today. Don’t tell them to put that french fry down, or that soda, just tell them they are beautiful. It’s encouragement enough.
Love yourself, accept yourself, and put a filter on your ears and your heart for the termites you have in your life. They aren’t worth the pain and destruction they cause.
Always..Big, Bold and Absolutely Beautiful!
LaDawn