We haven’t met so I never had a mental image of you. I can only say, you have a great work ethic and lovely spirit and that seems to me far more precious than being a size 4.

I also think we women have to stop hating ourselves for not being “perfect.” We inadvertantly – because of preoccupation – have let men continue to run the world. And look what they’ve done with it.

Every woman I know – no matter how tiny she is – has a big complaint and issues about her body. And what has it achieved other than to keep us from feeling happy and accomplishing more important things? Let’s figure out how to be indifferent – and wear that attitude with pride!

Yes, you are a big, beautiful woman, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Did you look at the pictures that people took? You were stunning!

Take another look in the mirror and try to see yourself the way others do. Try to see yourself the way your husband does.

If that doesn’t work, blink twice and try again.

I’ll tell you what. If you promise to try, I promise to do the same as I look at my own reflection in the coming months. Let’s make a promise to each other not to let society’s idealogy of what is considered “beautiful” to get in our way. Let’s just be too busy being beautiful to care, ok?

You are loved!

Sylvie